How to break bad habits (& create good ones)
How to break bad habits & create good ones is a hot topic I’m often asked about
If you’re reading this then I dare say you’ll already have an idea
- What is zapping you of energy right now?
- Which aspects of your life would you love to change?
- More importantly what would you love to in-still in its place!
But, there’s an innate love hate relationship when it comes to the thought of changing behaviour.
It’s often both desired & yet dreaded.
Obvious needed changes can seem so straight forward & easy; Logical, rational, even making perfect sense so why is it that the majority of times we slip straight back into old patterns of bad habits?…
It’s because of the hard wired patterns of choice that form in our psyche.
These have become part of our cosmic comfort zone embedded into the super-sub conscious where it can play out as:
>>> Boredom leading to the biscuit tin
>>> Pain to paralysing procrastination
>>> Trauma to reaching for a tipple
>>> Suffering to silent self- sabotage & doubt
There are no end of triggers that can spark the auto pilot-patterns of choice we create.
Yep, whether you’re aware or not YOU are choosing those habits for yourself
Granted it’s a pretty tough pill to swallow
But stick with me if you’re ready to switch that & take things to the next level.
Because understanding how to break bad habits & create good ones isn’t rocket science
The neuropsychologist coined this phrase to describe how pathways in the brain are formed & reinforced through repetition.
We have around 100 billion neurons bobbing about, each sending electrochemical messages to each other.
These connect>>>communicating with the body>>> causing action>>>that creates an outcome!
So to get a different result you need to break these short-circuits that have formed.
Because when neurons are out of sync they will not link together breaking these short circuits so that impulses become weaker & weaker.
This allows the energy to then flow where your attention goes creating new neural pathways that your subconscious can over time realise as the new short-cut or circuit.
So let’s get to the crooks as to how best to go about this…
Firstly, which of these does your wish fall into? :
- Habits – breaking actions that have become ingrained into day to day choices.
- Desires – you may have specific dreams or would love to up-level something in your life
- Relationships – want to have or enhance their love life or improve relationships with family, in-laws & friends.
- Soul Satisfaction – long to be more “fulfilled” “successful” “happier” “a better person”
I’ve found that clients fall into one of these four categories when it comes to the change they’d love to experience in their life.
So we need to ‘SWAP’ things as normally the dream desire is the polar opposite to what they no longer want.
It’s important to stress here that “I don’t want” focusses attention in the wrong direction emphasising the lack.
Your brain cannot comprehend negative language so you need to tell it EXACTLY what you’d love!
*Don’t think of a pink elephant
–you see… I rest my case 😉
Do though follow these four steps:
Stop – Decide what you’d love to stop, change & create instead for yourself
Why – Why is this important to you? Understanding this is super-crucial when it comes to those tougher days. I go into more depth with this in my Dream Results guide. Grab a copy for yourself here if you haven’t already.
Action – What is the one action you can take today that will make the most impact? How will this create the good habit for you?
Pathway – Follow a new path! I’ve created a detailed daily tracker to help you here. Commit to it for 21 consecutive days & you will form a new habit. Add another 90 days after that and it will become a more permanent part of your lifestyle!
You’ll notice I’ve included space to get really clear on how your life will feel when you’ve created this new good habit.
This will add oomph as a daily affirmation you can use to train your brain & bulk up that Mani-FAST-Action muscle faster!
So there you have it. Your pathway to break bad habits & create good ones for yourself instead.
If you’d like to make more permanent changes in your life and know how YOU are uniquely designed to align with your core self for results then let’s talk…get in touch today!
